120 This or That Questions
These this or that questions are quick two-option picks for friends, couples, classmates and group chats. Most are about everyday habits, so the answers say a lot about how someone really lives. Ask them one by one over text, take turns in a group, or guess each other's picks and see who knows who best.
Everyday life
- Text or call?
- Reply right away or leave it on read for later?
- Wake up at the first alarm or hit snooze five times?
- Shower in the morning or at night?
- Make the bed or leave it as it is?
- Early bird or night owl?
- Cook at home or order in?
- Plan the whole day or wing it?
- Walk there or take a ride?
- Clean as you go or one big clean on the weekend?
- Headphones on or listen to the world?
- Read the instructions or figure it out?
- Leave early or arrive just in time?
- Keep the receipt or throw it away?
- To-do list on paper or on your phone?
Food and drinks
- Tea or coffee?
- Breakfast at home or grab something on the way?
- Same order every time or try something new?
- Share your fries or guard your plate?
- Dessert first or save it for last?
- Street food or a sit-down restaurant?
- Spicy or mild?
- Follow the recipe or add a bit of everything?
- Midnight snack or sleep hungry?
- Finish your plate or pack the leftovers?
- Pizza or burger?
- Sweet snacks or salty snacks?
- Order for the whole table or everyone picks their own?
- Eat with music on or with a show on?
- Try the new cafe or go to your usual spot?
Personality
- Say what you think or keep the peace?
- Ask for help or figure it out alone?
- Apologize first or wait it out?
- Say yes to every plan or protect your free time?
- Big group or one close friend?
- Talk it out right away or take some space first?
- Follow the rules or bend them a little?
- Forgive fast or remember everything?
- Lead the group or go with the flow?
- Speak up in class or stay quiet?
- Overthink it or go with your gut?
- Save money or spend it on experiences?
- Ask for directions or keep walking?
- Finish one thing or start five at once?
- Laugh at your own jokes or keep a straight face?
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Weekends and travel
- Sleep in or start early?
- Stay home or go out?
- Beach or mountains?
- Window seat or aisle seat?
- Pack a week early or the night before?
- Plan every stop or get lost on purpose?
- Road trip or flight?
- Hotel or homestay?
- Photos of everything or phone stays in the bag?
- Same place every year or somewhere new each trip?
- Souvenirs for everyone or none at all?
- Busy city or quiet village?
- Sunrise hike or late brunch?
- Travel solo or with the whole gang?
- Carry-on only or a bag for every outfit?
Friends and social
- Host the party or be the guest?
- Arrive on time or fashionably late?
- Group chat on mute or read every message?
- Voice notes or typed messages?
- Big birthday party or quiet dinner?
- Cancel plans or show up tired?
- Split the bill evenly or pay for what you had?
- Tell a friend the hard truth or soften it?
- Make the plan or wait to be invited?
- Slip out quietly or say bye to everyone?
- Give a gift you picked or let them choose?
- Lend your favorite hoodie or keep it safe?
- Old friends only or always meeting new people?
- Call a friend to vent or wait until you meet?
- Remember birthdays yourself or let your phone remind you?
Tech and phones
- Dark mode or light mode?
- Phone on silent or ringer on?
- 100 unread notifications or zero?
- Run the battery to 5% or charge it at 50%?
- Photos in albums or one big camera roll?
- Post stories or post to your feed?
- Memes or long captions?
- Scroll before bed or read a book?
- Calls on speaker or with earphones?
- Last seen on or off?
- Update apps right away or ignore the reminders?
- One episode a night or binge the whole season?
- Take the selfie or ask someone else to take the photo?
- Laptop or phone for everything?
- Check your screen time or never look?
For couples
- Plan the date or be surprised?
- Good morning text or good night call?
- Matching outfits or no way?
- Cook together or order in together?
- Movie night in or dinner out?
- Say I love you first or wait to hear it?
- Share passwords or keep them private?
- Hold hands in public or keep it low key?
- Talk all day or miss each other a little?
- Big gift or a small handwritten note?
- Pick the movie or let them pick?
- Sort out a fight now or sleep on it?
- Celebrate the anniversary or the day you first met?
- Share one dessert or order two?
- Slow dance or silly dance?
Quick fire
- Sun or rain?
- Cats or dogs?
- Books or movies?
- Summer or winter?
- Ocean or pool?
- Stairs or lift?
- Morning walk or evening walk?
- Sing in the shower or shower in silence?
- Board games or video games?
- Comedy or horror?
- Sneakers or sandals?
- Handwritten or typed?
- Ice cream in a cone or a cup?
- Look back or look ahead?
- Fly or be invisible?
Questions in our quiz
Our quiz has its own set of questions with ready answers to pick from. See the quiz questions.
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Common Questions
How many this or that questions should I ask at once?
Ten to fifteen is a good round for a chat or a car ride. They are fast to answer, so you can go through a full group in a few minutes. Save the rest for another day so it stays fun.
Which this or that questions are best to start with?
Start with the everyday life and food picks, like "Text or call?" or "Tea or coffee?". They are easy and nobody has to think hard. Move to the personality and couples groups once everyone is warmed up.
How do I use this or that questions over text?
Send one or two picks at a time and answer them yourself too, so it feels like a game and not a survey. Ask "why?" on the answers that surprise you. That is where the real conversation starts.
Are these good for couples?
Yes. The "For couples" group is made for partners, and many of the everyday and travel picks work well on a date too. Try guessing each other's answer before you reply.
Can I turn these into a quiz about me?
Yes. On this site you can make a free quiz about yourself with no account: pick 20 questions, choose your answers and share the link. Friends guess your picks, and their scores show on a leaderboard so you can see who knows you best.
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