100 Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend

These questions are for anyone who wants to know their girlfriend better, whether you met last month or years ago. Most are about real situations and habits, so the answers tell you how she thinks, not just what she likes. Pick a few for your next date, a long call or a slow evening, and skip any that do not fit you two.

Getting to know her

You get a free Saturday with no plans and no one to answer to. How does the day go?
When you walk into a party where you know no one, what do you do first?Example: find the food / find the host / text a friend / leave early
What is something you were sure about at 16 that you laugh about now?
Which family member are you most like, and does that make you happy or nervous?
What is a small thing a stranger did for you that you still remember?
When you are upset, do you want to talk right away or be left alone for a while?Example: talk now / space first / depends who it is
What did you want to be as a kid, and how far is it from what you do now?
Which friend have you known the longest, and how did you meet?
What is a rule your parents had that you plan to keep, and one you plan to drop?
What do people usually get wrong about you when they first meet you?
You are handed a microphone at a wedding with no warning. What happens?Example: great speech / short and sweet / pass it on / panic
What is a skill you taught yourself that you are quietly proud of?
What place makes you feel calm the moment you get there?
Which compliment do you remember for years?
What is the last thing that made you laugh so hard you could not stop?

Fun and flirty

What was the first thing you noticed about me, honestly?
When did you first know you liked me more than as a friend?Example: first date / a text / a random moment / still deciding
Which outfit of mine do you secretly want me to wear more?
If you could plan our perfect date with no budget limit, where would we go?
What is one thing I do that you find cute but have never told me?
We get stuck in a lift for two hours. What do we end up doing?Example: talk / play a game / argue about food / sleep
Which song would you pick as the theme song of us?Example: something slow / a silly one / a classic / our first song
What nickname have you thought about calling me but never used?
If we swapped phones for a day, what would you be most curious to look at?
What is the most romantic thing someone could do for you in under five minutes?
I show up at your door with a surprise. What do you hope is in my hands?Example: food / flowers / tickets / just me
Which movie couple are we most like, and which one do you wish we were?
What is your favorite photo of the two of us, and why that one?
If you could relive one of our dates, which would it be?
Who would win in a cooking contest between us, and who would judge?

Everyday habits

Your alarm goes off on a work day. What happens next?Example: up at once / snooze twice / snooze till late / alarm off and sleep
You are hungry and it is 11 at night. What do you make or order?
How do you act when your phone battery drops below 10 percent?
We have to share one blanket. Who ends up with most of it?Example: you / me / we fight for it / we get two
What is the one chore you would happily do forever, and the one you would pay to skip?
How long do you take to reply to a text when you are busy, and is that on purpose?
You are running late to meet me. What do you do?Example: call / text sorry / send a meme / just show up
How do you like your tea or coffee, exactly?Example: strong and sweet / no sugar / milky / neither, juice please
What do you do in the first ten minutes after you get home?
Which app do you open the most when you are bored?
You find a new show you love. How fast do you watch it?Example: one night / an episode a day / wait for me / forget it
How do you pack for a trip: lists a week early or everything the night before?
What is your go-to comfort food after a long day?
When you shop for clothes, how do you decide?Example: try everything / buy fast / ask a friend / return half later
What small habit of mine have you started to copy without noticing?

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Deep questions

What is something you are still trying to forgive yourself for?
When do you feel most like yourself, and when do you feel like you are acting?
What fear do you carry that most people around you do not know about?
What helps you most on a bad day?Example: a hug / a long talk / quiet time / a distraction
Which moment in your life changed the way you see the world?
What do you need from people to trust them fully?
What did your parents' relationship teach you about love, good or bad?
Is there a dream you gave up on that you still think about?
What do you wish someone had told you five years ago?
When you feel lonely, even around people, what is usually going on?
What is one belief you have changed your mind about in the last few years?
What makes you feel truly respected, more than any words?
How do you want people to remember you when you are not in the room?
What is a hard thing you did that you never got credit for?

Us and our relationship

I forget an important date. How do you react?Example: hurt but say nothing / tell me straight / tease me for weeks / forgive fast
We have a big fight and both go quiet. Who should speak first?Example: you / me / whoever is wrong / whoever cools down first
What do I do that makes you feel most loved, even if it seems small?
Is there something you wish I asked you about more often?
How much time apart do you need in a week to feel like yourself?Example: almost none / one evening / a full day / it changes
What is one thing about how we argue that you would like to change?
When I am stressed, what do you think I need from you?
What is something your friends say about us that made you smile?
How do you feel when I spend a whole weekend with my friends?
Is there a moment in our relationship you would like a do-over on?
How do you like to make up after a fight: talk it out, a hug, or time first?
What is something you have learned about yourself since we got together?
What should I never joke about with you?
Which of my friends do you like most, and which one do you find hard?
What does a good apology look like to you?

The future

Where do you see yourself living in ten years?Example: same city / a bigger city / a quiet town / another country
What is one goal you want to reach before you turn 30, or the next big age for you?
What does a normal weekday look like in your ideal future?
How do you feel about saving money versus spending it on trips and fun?Example: save first / spend now / half and half / depends on the trip
If one of us got a great job offer in another city, how would we decide?
What is one trip you want us to take together, and when?
What traditions from your family would you want to keep in your own home one day?
Pets in the future: yes, no, or a whole zoo?Example: one dog / cats only / no pets / as many as possible
What part of growing older are you looking forward to?
What would make you feel proud of us a year from now?
What are you most excited to learn or try in the next few years?
What does a happy life look like to you, in one sentence?

Questions for a couple quiz

What would I order at a new restaurant without looking at the menu for long?Example: the first pasta / the spiciest dish / the same as always / dessert first
What is my biggest pet peeve?
When I am sad, what do I reach for first?Example: my phone / food / music / you
I get a surprise day off. What do I do with it?Example: sleep all day / go out / call you / catch up on chores
What is the one thing I cannot leave the house without?
Where did we go on our first date?
What is the song I play on repeat when I am in a good mood?
How do I act when I am really hungry?Example: quiet / grumpy / extra dramatic / I do not notice
What is my dream holiday spot?
Which household task do I always try to avoid?
What is the thing I say most when I am annoyed?
You buy me a gift with no hint from me. What is safest?Example: food / books / something cute / a plan for us
What time do I really go to sleep on a weekend?
What is the one thing that always cheers me up?

Questions in our quiz

Our quiz has its own set of questions with ready answers to pick from. See the quiz questions.

More lists: This or that questions, Questions to ask your crush, Questions to ask your best friend.

Common Questions

How many of these questions should I ask in one go?

Three to five is usually enough for one date or call. Good questions lead to longer answers and follow-ups, so a few can fill an evening. Save the deep ones for a quiet moment rather than a busy place.

Which questions are best to start with?

Start with the everyday habits or fun and flirty groups. They are easy to answer and often get you both laughing. Once the talk feels relaxed, move to the deep or relationship questions.

Can I ask these over text?

Yes. Light questions like the habit or flirty ones work well over chat, one at a time. For deep questions or anything about your relationship, a call or face to face talk is better, since tone is easy to misread in text.

What are good couple quiz questions?

The best couple quiz questions are about habits and reactions, not just favorites, because those show who really pays attention. The last group on this page is made for that: things your partner should know about you if they know you well.

How do I turn these into a quiz for my girlfriend?

Use the button on this page to make a free quiz about yourself on this site. There is no account needed: you answer 20 questions, share the link, and she guesses your answers. Her score, and the scores of anyone else who plays, show on a leaderboard.

Make a quiz about yourself and send her the link.